21st Century Dating... Ughhhh
by PowerMelvin,Dec/31/2016
I have been single for over 7 years now. I have to say that being single in the 21st century is nothing like it was in my 20s. Having just turned 48 in October, I have been on the dating scene actively for nearly a year after a pair of relationships. I have a difficult time meeting single and available women when I am out and about. I do not pick up women at bars, do not have a large social circle, nor do I have a lot of confidence when approaching someone - flashbacks to high school. :roll:
So it seemed very apparent that online dating seems to be the way to go. I have signed up for a couple of accounts, both free and paid accounts. I have found that trying to find someone to meet is similar to that of searching for a job. One can spend a lot of time on the computer or their smartphones scanning and scouring the available partners out there. This one is too short, out of my age range, too far away, and so on.
Then there is the chance that you do find someone who you may want to introduce yourself to there is the competition - at least for a man. I have heard many women tell me they receive many messages everyday from men either wanting to meet them or trying to get in their pants. So then I consider my introduction to a woman similar to that of a cover letter. It feels as if I have to highlight my qualifications as a potential date and to do so in a non-threatening way. My letter needs to hit my highlights and talk about my experience.
Oh and let's say that the woman I send the message to likes what she reads and wants to being conversation. I cannot tell you how many times I have been in the middle of what seems like an engaging chat only to have someone tell me she is not feeling a connection... :shock: How can someone feel a connection in a text message? To me texting seems to be somewhat impersonal and many times messages are open for interpretation based upon the mood the reader is in. I've seen a few playful/non-sexual comments be completely misinterpreted. It seems that the best connections are made by meeting face to face, or am I just a bit old fashioned?
This really only touches the tip of the iceberg. I can write about this some more, but I need to get back to my search.
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*** Hi! Its simple...A long journey for you especially you are on a dating site like this one. Just know what you are looking for and get to know stuff about that person. You would not know what you are going to find out but, be patient. People online are virtual, real, fake, or just here to entertain their free time..in short play! Im sure we all agree...this online search is a risk or is a luck you can say.
Trust me, no matter you meet the person, you woudn't know this will work too! for in reality, yes! you see and meet her,but the chemistry isn't there too! then you can finally say, this isn't the right one.Ouch! what a hustle this happens.
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