MillenniumVirgin

More about me:

Well I genuinely think this is going to be the type of advert that you've never read before, at least not written by a guy, and so it’s probably worth reading to the end just for sheer entertainment value if nothin else.

But first to put my subject line into context maybe I should begin with some essential background. Here's my story......

I met up with a girl for the first time a few months ago, she spent a mere precious half an hour getting to know me when she told me that she wanted to take me home with her for sex at which point I made it clear to her that I was not the kind of guy who would sleep with someone I've just met or hardly know.

But then my resistance to her subsequent attempts to seduce me with touching of certain body parts in public, made her feel so insecure that she went home with the stranger standing next to us who I deliberately introduced her to and who she conversed with for a whole, let me see, ummm - single minute - my god he must have been special!

His mate who he left behind on his own was clearly perplexed by the whole situation and then quizzed me, why didn't you go home with her, any other guy would of, and I just replied I'm not any other guy!

A few weeks before that, I met this girl at a musical event, we had an instant connection so met up one evening after work when she casually expressed to me that she lived with her boyfriend, but said that she really liked me, that I was really good looking, smart and funny and so getting physical with me was not a problem. Despite her text messages, I did not bother contacting her again.

And then there was a girl I met at a party, there was an instant synergy and I thought this could turn out to be something special.

Later in the evening she asked me if I liked the red top she was wearing. Red being my favorite colour I said yes. Then she said something I'd never heard before: "You know what they say about girls who go out wearing red don't you? “What’s that then” I replied....”they’re up for it" I went along with the joke and responded "So are you?"

But it was far from a joke, she later got pissed off with me just because I didn't want to go home with her. For me, it was way too early for that level of intimacy, I wasn't ready for that, it didn't feel right. Anyway, then she started interrogating me - you must be married, have a girlfriend, kids, be gay etc.

After trying to explain to her that just because I don't want to sleep with someone who I've only spent an evening with, doesn't mean that I'm not physically and mentally attracted to her she agreed to meet me again. We met a few more times, but then suddenly she stopped answering my calls, according to my friends, even though she was really into me, it was because I'd already been out with her three times but had not yet slept with her which apparently violated some superficial dating rule.

Oh and then there was a girl I met in a bar last summer who later informed me she was practically married to the guy she lived with. And despite telling me that I was her "soul mate" (the second time someone’s called me that, (the previous one took another guy on holiday with her cause I couldn't go!)) and the most "special" guy she'd ever met in her life, one night whilst I was DJ-ing at a private party I invited her to, she get off outside the venue with a random stranger she'd danced with in front of me and then she lied about it when I gave her the chance to come clean. I lost all respect for her at that point.

Well the end result of all this malarkey is that I haven't been physically intimate with a girl for quite a few years now (my friends call me the millennium virgin but I'm yet to get the t-shirt printed!), but as my recounts above will testify (and they are many others), it’s not because of lack of opportunities. The truth is if I wanted just sex, like most attractive people, I could walk into most bars/clubs and get it without speaking more than a few words. And before it crosses you're mind, it's not because I'm a misogynist or gay either!

So now to the serious bit....

...Quite simply, it's because I'm a decent guy, who although on the surface comes across as sociable, confident, intellectual, outgoing, flippant and funny, who under the veneer is deep and caring who wants to share intimacy with someone special who has HIGH standards for her self and does not just sleep with anybody or a guy she has just met.

Someone who can challenge and inspire me with her humor, intellect, passion, humility, personality and innate talents, and most of all depth of character. Someone who stands out from the crowd who doesn't sleep around, has integrity, morals and loyalty towards her friends and partner.

Does a girl like that still exist? Or has the lad-ate cultured engulfed every women under a certain age?