Ojai_Alan

More about me:

Introduction:
I guess who I'm looking for doesn't exist. But hopefully by networking, someone I like can be found.

The short form about me:

I am bi, only because I have dated women in the past, but am now more attracted to men,
Boiled down, I am a free thinker and completely sane (so they say)! I do not limit myself to who I can and can't love with the exception of personal preferences. I'm single, 40 (by age) but going on 30 by looks and mind. I know some of you whom I meet may not prefer an older guy, but please do not judge me just because I had the unfortunate circumstance to have been born before you. Wait until you have gotten to know me first. you might just GROW to like me!

I am tender, sweet, soft and passive by nature. I seek the same nature in my companion. I am a guy of simple means and pleasures, and I am happy having a nice dinner and a movie or just cuddling up on the couch at home. I own a commercial amusement repair business and service western Ventura County and I own my own home.

I have never married, have no tattoos (I prefer you don't either please, but can make exceptions if they are not too extreme) and I have no children.
I am not into Goth or the death cult culture and I'm not into body builders. If you look like Chyna the wrestler, I won't be attracted to you. Just think boy/girl next door, well dressed, lean, and clean, and you'll get the idea.

Please!!! If I send you a message and you read my profile and see my pictures, and are not attracted to me, please tell me right away. I will appreciate your candor and sincerely respect you as being someone of truthfulness. I admire those who can say NO.

About: you:

As I mentioned above, I would prefer someone younger than I, say 18 - 40, however I am open to try someone older if I'm attracted to you. I prefer my companion to be slender who likes someone bigger than them since I'm physically man enough for both of us (Seriously. I'm 6'5" 250 lbs, I'm two rolled into one.
I want someone to cherish and take care of, to hold your hand when you want it. To hug you when you need it. To love you when the time is right with all my heart. I have become wise and know how to treat a people. I may be old to some of you younger people, but don't let that fool you. I am truly young at heart myself, tempered with wisdom. That means I have experience, and know how to treat you well. I'm not out to hit and run like so many others.

I prefer you have long hair like I do, but its not necessary. However, the buzzed hair/bald look is a definite deal breaker. I also adore beautiful eyes, and someone who is maybe (dare I say it) even a tiny bit emo. Side note: cross dressers are a plus, (I have always wanted to date someone who does).
You must be INTELLIGENT! Gangstas need not apply!!!!
I am looking for an assertive, (maybe even passive androgynous/effeminate) and sweet, discrete individual. I'm not out

Additional details about me:

I am fiercely loyal, I don't cheat, so f I fall for you, you're done for, so you better be serious. I try not to date more than one individual at a time as I feel it is not productive to divide my energy from working on true love.

I enjoy socializing online and playing games and/or being a couch potato with Netflix. Cooking. Walks along the trail. Exploring the river bottom. Strolling downtown main street. Coffee at Palermo's. Sushi at Seaward Sushi. Exploring existential philosophy.

I also like to tinker around the garage/workshop/garden. Camping in the mountains, boat rides on the lake, fishing and leisurely recreational bicycling. I work hard so I play easy. I find it best to take life one day at a time and just relax when I can.

Intellectually, I am very intelligent so I can be very understanding, compassionate, and open minded. However I do tend to be an absent minded sort , and somewhat forgetful (attention deficit disorder).

If you have ever listened to and liked George Carlin, and/or can understand Dennis Miller's Jokes, or even if you haven't but want to try, you're on the right track to my heart! If you would like to talk about who/what the Anunnaki are and have dismissed the myth of religion, or even if you haven't, we will have many interesting conversations. But I am not all seriousness. I love to enjoy simple things too.

I'm not religious, but I do believe in something bigger than I. Call it being agnostic, but I believe we are all souls (spirits), eternal beings having a physical experience, for good or bad, its a learning experience. I also believe there are no such things as genders in the spiritual world, so why should I limit myself in the physical world.

I'm a libertarian and naturist. I don't drive often and I use public transportation when possible or carpool or bicycle or walk. I enjoy the exercise.

Again, ultimately I'm looking for a long term relationship, if we hit it off maybe more. We start by dating and progress from there. If we don't click, I know that I have at least made another friend.

Sex is not a priority with me, I could actually do without it, however I do like it. I would rather find someone to fall in love with and be with for the rest of my life. So if you aren't really into sex, hey I'm down with that. On the other hand if you decide you want it and want it bad, I'll get freaky with you! But an absolute must is an insatiable desire to make out. I love kissing!

I'm not looking for a hookup or one night stands. I am not into multiple partners. And I am especially not into acquiring life threatening diseases. They may have just accidentally cured the first human being on earth today (true: Scientific American), but a cure for adults is still a long way off. Please say no to me if you have the disease,

There is a saying that there is someone for everyone on this earth. I believe it to be true since Ive seen the most oddest of couples be madly in love. Could you be my mate? Anyone from 18 to 40 may message me, and I encourage you to do so!
I think that should be enough for homeland security to know about me. ! :D

About my ideal partner:

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BTW, attention trolls, I am seeking someone CUTE AND YOUNGER than I. I would appreciate it if you would respect my wishes please. :evil: