Lokin4aReason

More about me:

I have to be honest to you all ( at whoever is viewing my profile ), I am a bit new to this and just getting back in the dating scene ..

I have a job and I enjoy at what I do. also have vehicle(s) that up keep w/ having weekend outings to disconnect

a little about me:
a bit old-fashioned and enjoy helping the less fortunate. i consider myself an ambitious laid back individual and easy going. i have a big heart ( sometimes that can be my downfall ), open minded ( love trying new things ), is well travelled ( lived aboard for ' X ' amount of years ), and pretty much open for a diverse conversation and discovering a new atmosphere ..

i have been told that i am real, faithful, honest ( kind of blunt and I do not like sugar coating anything ), funny sense of humor ( i can let loose and have fun, but can also be serious when
needed), devoted, considerate, and sensitive. I like to live life to the fullest ...

PS PS; also a single parent to two bun(s) ( as in bunnies, yes rabbits )

About my ideal partner:

from what I have been observing on the profile(s) on this site, they want a man who is ( or am I seeing this wrong );

loves, adores her heart, is loyal to her above everyone else ( including his best friends ), and sees them as his favorite person to spend time with. thinks of them when they are not together and doing little things to show this. making her the top priority in his life and likes to see them on her worst days, yet sees the best in her. treats her sweetly and kindly, even when she is being "difficult".

feels comfortable, when connecting and safe sharing her deepest secrets with. not only listens to what she says but pays attention to how she feels about what she is saying. communicates to her (I.e. "Hon, you seem down about that") and w/ knowing what to do for her to feel heard on an emotional level.

giving them their undivided attention in showing emotions when she is talking to him and remembers what she says. remembering what she likes and doesn't like. listens to her without problem solving, judging, lecturing, taking other peoples sides, and especially doesn't insinuate she is overreacting, unreasonable or "crazy". noticing any change in her physical appearance such as hair, make up, and clothing. also takes the time to get to know her on a deep level and understand her.

they are also looking for who romances them, even after 40 years of marriage. continues to date her and treats her like he did when the relationship was new. makes her feel special and knowing how to plan dates. giving gifts that show thought and planning, esp. ones that show he knows what she likes. making her laugh w/ being playful with her on occasion. w/o needing sex and who can show affectionate ( cuddle time )

knows how to let little things slide without getting bent out of shape and can give her space when she needs it without being insecure about it. who doesn't get his feelings hurt easily w/ treating her gently yet has backbone with her if need be (yet done lovingly)

is kind, esp. to her, is dependable and does what he says when he says he is going to do it esp. when it is something he promised her!! being real, utterly truthful to her, and being honest

also can give them a sincere apology when he's messed up w/ giving assurances that he is committed to her during conflict and doesn't withdraw from her. puts effort into making the relationship work w/ taking the initiative to work on problem(s) in the relationship. and doesn't have to spell out everything she would like him to do in the relationship.

there is alot more to it (but space being limited), yet who am I to judge anything ...

w/ that being said, i am starting to loss hope in this site because everyone has their own definition of that so called " Perfect " ( does it even exist ... ? ). but hey WE are adults here and you can decide if you can give a person a chance, right ... ?

much rather prefer talking on the phone or meeting face to face ( if that means if both of US has to drive because distance is just a number and not an excuse, IMO ) ..

PS; not really looking far any texting buddies either, sorry ....