Shamby

More about me:

Hi, I'm Duane.

So what does one say in a profile?

Well I grew up a country boy, farm kid. Great experience and I wouldn't trade that

experience for the world. Graduated and went to college, then decided I needed to see the world so I enlisted in the service and traveled.

I have had a good life. I have the most wonderful and thoughtful friends, a loving family though small. I have a great job, a nice home that suits me well. I was blessed with two wonderful sons. Adam who lives out in LA with his sweetheart. They both work in the film industry and love it. I miss them both at times and Nick who we had the misfortune many years ago. That was the most difficult period in my life. However, he is my guardian angel. Those things in life teach you many things, you tend to reevaluate what’s really important in life.

I have been fortunate enough in my life to have traveled to some of the most beautiful places on earth. I was privileged enough to shake the hand of Ronald Regan as he thanked me for my service to god and my country. I have enjoyed the wonderful culture of a play on Broadway to the little hole in the wall bar in Tim buck nowhere. Life has been good. But there is something missing. Maybe what I am looking for is a needle in a haystack. But the thing in life is I won’t settle just to have someone in my life. I have been searching a long time for something. Maybe I will never find it, but I am not going to give up trying.

A remember a few years back just before our mother passed. I remember I was sitting on one side of her and my father one the other. I remember my mother taking my father’s hand and saying to him "My darling my darling and I remember my father saying to her my sweetheart, my sweetheart" 53 yrs of being together and seeing them love each other that day just as they did on the first. That's something you never forget. To me that is what love is really about and at the end of the day that is the type of person I desire to share my life with. Having that type of person in my life is what is important to me. A person who loves you and accepts you for who you are.

Though some people will disagree. Life isn't about where you are or what you own. It’s about who you are with. That person you kiss good night and tell them you love them. To me that's what it is about. The rest of it you create together. The possibilities are endless. It's what you or we make of it.

I desire honesty, and communication. Because without it you really have nothing.

You can have all the chemistry in the world which seems to be so important to so many people, but without those basics you just won’t ever grow or succeed.

Someone asked me what’s a perfect day for me with someone. Hmmm...perhaps getting up making you breakfast, getting dressed and going for a simple country drive, stopping in at little small town mom and pop shops. Perhaps later we change and head downtown for a wonderful dinner and a play. Maybe a weekend in a cabin overlooking Lake Superior. Then again it can be as simple as a burger and a beer, a warm fire and a Redbox movie. Again, it’s not about where but with who.

Yep, life has been good. Really the only thing missing is you.

So as you have noticed, I have two looks. One with facial hair, one without. Someone recently said hey you should try shaving. Well, I figured why not? Sometimes change is good. The reactions have been interesting. From oh, you shaved your identity to gosh you look much younger to those I don’t think even noticed.

Some women will say they won’t date a man with a mustache. Others will say they like the bad boy aspect that comes with one. Thing is you can’t please everyone. What is important to me is that I am happy with or without it and I would like to believe that what’s important to you is who I am. Whether or not I am there at the end of a long day for you with a smile, a hug, perhaps flowers or dinner or that I'm there when you need me most. That I accept you for who you are and where you have been, Everybody has their idea of who they want. But like I said I'm happy as I am.